Author: Kristen Marie Schuerlein Ferry

You have no idea how who you are impacts others. Grace the world with your love, and compassion. Forgive others for past trespasses. I, for one, am grateful for those who give me the space to screw up, act stupid, and embarrass myself all while loving me anyway. As people grow, reintroduce yourself and explore from there. Let the past go.

Every month I make 10 promises, and read them to my accountability group on our morning call. Here is my report card for 2011: Jan 63%, Feb 10%, Mar 30%, Apr 30%, Mar 70%, Jun 90%, Jul 80%, Aug 50%, Sept 80% Oct 80%, Nov 100%, Dec 90%. Each promise can include 1 to 100 actions (for example some things I promise daily, or 5x a week… in the first 6 months of the year I was promising 100 contacts a month for business development). Overall I promised to do 1907 things over 12 months. I completed 1570, for a 82.3%…

This morning I decided to go on a rampage of gratitude. Here are just a few things from the last 30 days that I am grateful for… the little place I rented in Laguna sunsets my new laptop my new iPad doing tons of meditation from the beach to Trump Tower the trip to NY and hanging with super conscious people working of expanding awareness a lovely drive from Seattle to SoCal walking on the beach getting a pedicure dinner with mom and riley my dad calling out of the blue to tell me he loves me starting on isagenix…

Not sure what is means. I just like it. Do you ever feel the need to lighten the load, to purge, and to reduce the shear tonnage of your life? Suddenly, I find myself right in the middle of exactly that. Hard to explain. But I am going with it. Not sure what is means. I just like it.

Have you ever taken 8 hours off from talking? While you were awake? Give it a try. Please.

One of the most delightful things about being human is our ability to imagine, vision and dream. Highly effective people are masterful at determining outcomes, making plans and setting in motion events that produce the desired result. And this is a wonderful skill, until it becomes a predator to ones happiness. Case in point. About a week ago, I find myself crying. I’ve just learned that the future I invited in my head wasn’t going to happen. Logistically, it was simply improbable. And I was not taking the news well. After contemplation, I realized that I had made the whole…

Do you laugh? Hard. Do you do it enough? Just because. Do you make time to be goofy? Really goofy. Remember twelve-year-old-giggling-at-something-stupid silly? Try it. Good for the soul.

I notice that we tend to defend our position like it has value. As if not showing up (even with good reason), not putting in the extra effort or having a “oh, that’s just how it is” mindset has ever produced amazing results. Why do we fight so hard to defend the mediocre? What would life be like if we showed up no matter what, we went the extra mile, and we decided that “this is how it could be” were our default settings. I think we’d experience a totally different life, even if the people around us didn’t change…

Matthew Ferry taught me “my mind is not my friend.” True that. I was taking a nap the other day, and realized as I was dreaming, that my mind was like the screen in a movie theater. On the screen were images – some unknown to me, some memories from long ago – that suddenly appeared without reason, cause or purpose. It’s as if whatever that talking is in my head (The Drunk Monkey as Matthew calls it) will put anything on the screen of my mind that it wants. Seemingly to entertain itself. Upon waking up I said “Well…

Reality is an illusion. How do I know? Imagine you are in a conversation with a colleague. See yourself standing in front of them, imagine seeing the words come out of their mouth, and you are responding. It’s friendly, enjoyable, and then you get a phone call and gesture “I gotta take this,” smile and head off to your next appointment. Q. What was the reality of what just occurred? A. Whatever we decide. Think about that. The REALITY of what just occurred is whatever you decide. Interesting idea. Let’s look at the dynamics at play. 1. Two people interacting…